Finding Contentment in Singleness

Finding Contentment: Singleness Series Part 2

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Being content is no easy task!

I have just completed my third semester of college and it took this long to find contentment in being single. After going through several and far too many crushes, I had enough. The emotional rollercoaster that you go through when it comes to crushes is complete insanity. “He likes me, he likes me not”, “oh my goodness! He looked at me! What does this mean!?” Now, I know this isn’t every girls reaction when it comes to crushes, but it sure was mine, and if it is yours as well, you are not alone.

In the beginning of October, I had a friend tell me that she prayed for a boyfriend for 40 days straight. God had blessed her with a boyfriend, whom she did end up marrying. In my mind, I thought that was a great idea, so I hopped along that train and decided to ask God for a boyfriend for 40 days straight.

Little did I know, I was going to get thrown a curve ball!

God revealed to me numerous things on my heart during this time. It included: anger, resentment, unlovingness, and a broken heart. One thing that wasn’t on my heart was contentment!

Instead of gaining a boyfriend at the end of 40 days, I gained an intimate, one on one relationship with the Father who created me. I was seeking a boy in all the wrong places and at the wrong time. The Father used this time to draw me closer so that I could feel loved. To feel and truly believe that He wants me. All of me. The good, the bad and the ugly.

I truly and fully became content because I have the Lord fulfilling me.

He is the perfect Father, and He wants nothing more than an intimate relationship with his daughter.

He wanted and still wants me to give it all to him. My hopes, my dreams, my past, my present and my future. Even though he knows my every move and every thought, He still wants me to communicate with him.

That is what makes a relationship. Communication. Talking to Him, and praying to Him.

He taught me to walk with Him, talk with Him, and through that I grew with Him and in Him. I went from having a mediocre faith, to a faith where I trusted his plan fully for my life.

Being a type A person, and wanting control, it took a long long time for this to come to the conclusion and it still is a daily struggle to hand over control.

40 days of prayer is a long time, but I had a good support group to help me through. One friend introduced me to a book called “Draw the Circle: the 40 Day Prayer Challenge” by Mark Batterson and you can get it here. I read that book, and that encouraged me to keep going. It gave me new insights on what prayer life can look like.

It gives an insight on how your prayer life can be and how your relationship with your father can be.

While doing this prayer challenge, I learned that God can do amazing things through me if I allow him to. God used me during this challenge. I had my strong points, and this was the time where I could encourage others in faith, but then there were low points where I needed to have that support.

During this time, I got into art. Drawing, painting, whatever I could do to be able to draw the picture that the Lord put on my mind and heart.

God used me in this art ability. I was on the way home from a school trip and God gave me a picture. Little did I know that I would completely finish this picture three days later and give it to my friend who was going to go through a rough time.

During this prayer challenge, it was definitely very difficult for me. With the highs and the lows and the punches to the gut, God never let me down. Let’s just say, Satan does not like it when we are in a close relationship with the Lord. Satan struck where it hurt, which was my past.

But, JESUS ALREADY WON THE BATTLE!

Even though there were highs and lows, My God, My Father never left me to fend for myself. In fact, He did just the opposite! He fought for me!

You don’t have to fight your battles.

You don’t have go about life on your own wondering if everything is going to be okay.

What if God is telling you to wait? He wants you to give it all to Him. Turning the table, what if The Father is waiting for You to tell Him that you want Him?

God Wants YOU!

You are special! Precious in his eyes. You are a princess because you are a daughter of our Lord Jesus Christ, King of Kings and Lord or Lords!

Don’t settle. Get to know yourself. Get to know who your God and Father is. God will chase you down because he fights for you and He wants you to be able to go to him!

There’s this song, and it is called “Reckless Love”. I encourage you to listen to it here. The chorus goes like this,

“O, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God
O, it chases me down, fights ’til I’m found, leaves the ninety-nine
I couldn’t earn it, and I don’t deserve it, still, You give Yourself away
O, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God, yeah”

God wants to use you. He doesn’t call the equipped, He equips the called. I definitely can say that a year ago, I would have no idea that I would be drawing, singing in front of crowds, back to doing piano, writing this blog post, or planning on going into the mission field, but God has a plan for all of it.

I have to trust that plan and that He is equipping me to do what He has called me to do!

How is God equipping you? What can you use for His glory and honor? How is God helping you find contentment? What are you doing to become content?

I challenge you to Go! Go find out what your passions are! Find out who you are! Go get contentment, because it won’t come to you!

Allow God to work in you and through you! Trust me, contentment feels amazing and it is almost so overwhelming, I can’t even put it into words.

The time is now to find out what God has in store for you life!

If you missed part 1 of this series you can find it here. Check it out as it goes with this post and stay tuned for more on the Singleness Series!

May your day Sparkle,

Sarah

2 thoughts to “Finding Contentment: Singleness Series Part 2”

  1. I had the same problem with crushes that you did/do: I would get super obsessed about them and way over-analyze. It was bad. The struggle is real. I’m glad I’m not the only one:)

    I appreciate what you’re saying about contentment, and I think to some extent, it’s very true. We need to be able to be at peace with where we are in our lives right now. We need to appreciate the season that God has placed us in right now and the lessons He’s teaching us and the works that He’s doing.

    However, I get nervous when people talk about “contentment” in the context of wishing for a relationship. It can easily become very much like what you did with your friend and the 40 days of prayer. You start thinking, “If I can only become content, then God will give me a relationship.” In both cases we’re failing to recognize that a relationship is a gift of God’s grace that is given in God’s good timing. It’s not dependent on our prayer life (though God wants us to have that) or our obedience (though God wants us to obey) or our contentment level (though God wants us to be content and trust him). We can’t go through a process and “make” God give us a spouse. It doesn’t work that way. It’s different for everyone. Relationships are just a gift, something God gives us because He loves us, not because of anything we’ve done or not done.

    In all honesty, I was never content with being single before I got married (actually I was probably the least content I’ve ever been in my life when I met the man who is now my husband). Finally, I realized that was okay. God had put a desire in my heart to be married, and that desire was going to be there until I got married. It was okay to mourn over the fact that the desire hadn’t yet been met. It was okay to cry out to God in loneliness and when I didn’t understand what was happening. It was okay to not be okay with how my life had turned out to that point. The trick is to not let that desire consume you or let that unmet desire turn you against God.

    I like your writing. It’s really good. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with the world.

  2. Great post Sis! I may not be single, but this post can definitely send encouragement to keep the faith and trust God’s plan. You’re so right – finding contentment is hard, even in everyday life. Thanks for sharing your faith-filled, encouraging words! Keep it up (: love ya!

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